Daily Mindfulness 4/24/13 - Setting an Example
A need to control is a defect for many of us. We want things to go our way, people to act our way, and we suffer when they don't. We try to lead people by telling them what to do, acting as a boss, and being what we see as a leader.
Practicing mindfulness, we recognize that we only truly have control over ourselves. Knowing this, the best way we can be a leader is to set a good example. Setting an example means we do what we think is right, work our hardest, and behave in ways that we think are healthy and moral. As we begin practicing mindfulness and any sort of a spiritual life, our values tend to change. As our values change, so do our lives. Other people aren't blind; they see this change within us. As we begin bettering ourselves and our interaction with the world, we become happier, more stable people. We glow with the light of metta, and people are drawn to it.
Mindfulness Practice for the Day: Today, when you find yourself looking to lead people, remind yourself that a good example is the best form of leadership that we may provide. We cannot force anyone else to do anything, but our own growth can serve as a demonstration of what our work is doing for us.