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Below is a break down of Sex Addiction, Love Addiction, and Sex AND Love Addiction (SLA). It’s important to note that, quite frequently Attachment Disorders are at the root of these addictions. Looking at these addictions from an attachment perspective can help to reduce the shame that feeds these addictions, because SLA behavior can be seen (not justified but better understood) as a means to getting our most fundamental needs of attachment met.

What Is Sex Addiction?

One who becomes powerless over their own sexual thoughts and behaviors, escalating serious adverse consequences for them, their families, and their friends. (saa-recovery.org)

Three Levels of Addiction (Carnes, 1983) –These behaviors are categorized by severity and the progressive nature of Sex Addiction.

Level I Behaviors

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Posted by on in Other Addictions

 

Below are my thoughts on using humor in therapy. Have a good week!

 

 

Most therapists had lives previous to becoming therapists. After undergraduate in San Francisco, I moved to Los Angeles where I undertook stand-up and comedy writing. I then blinked my eyes, nine years passed, and I was thirty. At my birthday lunch I watched an older friend, who by all accounts had “made it” as a comedy writer, whiskey-nurse his latest out-of-work ulcer. I decided that lunch to go back to school, but I never forgot comedy.

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5 Signs You’re A Binge-Dater?

By Jessica Levith, M.A.

To binge is to indulge excessively in an activity. This could be any activity like eating until you’re sick, drinking until you pass out, or gambling away your home. In many cases, binging is an unhealthy, potentially dangerous behavior used to mask underlying anxious or depressive feelings. It can also be the hallmark of an addiction. So what is binge-dating? Binge-dating is pressing the fast forward button on a relationship, speeding up the process of

getting to know someone in an intimate way. Often, this

Binge-dating is surprisingly common and without proper intervention, it can lead to repeatedly setting partnerships up for failure. A desire for a partner or wanting to avoid uncomfortable feelings isn’t in and of itself pathological. These are often normal human impulses. Binge-daters, however, have gone most of their lives being partnered. They dread the notion of being alone, and go to great lengths to keep that from happening.

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I have suffered from the need for validation from a young age.  Wanting a person's approval, I often acquiesce in situations where I might actually disagree.  Recovery has taught me that I can be triggered by domineering personality types and that I can handle any situation as long as I stay calm and practice spiritual principles. 

Physiologically, I am no different than any other person who reacts in a high stress environment.  Like a man confronted by a sabre tooth tiger, I will either fight or flight (run) when faced with this stressor.  Same goes for conversations with difficult, overbearing people.  In early recovery, I first had to learn how not to drink in the face of such triggers.  Many years later, I am working how to remain calm and access my faculties in such situations. I don't want to just not drink, I want to grow up.

I can see my progress.  I used to automatically shut down when a bullying type of person raised his or her voice and made demands.  My silence said I could be pushed into submission.  My submission led to shame and more fear.  Even though I didn't drink, I still felt bad about myself for accepting unacceptable treatment and not speaking up for myself.

Just today, a never satisfied physician from my biggest account at work let me know that unless I found a solution to his insurance contracting dilemma, he was going to stop using my company's incredible product. His account amounts to 13% of my total territory volume.  I was driving a car and could feel myself become agitated.  A small voice within said, "Stay calm, assure him that you are hearing him and let him know you will take his problem seriously.". 

After I hung up with the doctor, I shared my reaction with my business partner at work. She said you did well, but maybe next  time someone puts the pressure on while I am driving, simply ask the person if I can meet with them in person to discuss the matter further.

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Teenagers often go through hormonal changes throughout life and may become depressed.  Depression in teens is very common and many teens take medicine and receive counseling in order to treat it.   Depression can be very dangerous if left untreated, and can cause the teen to commit suicide or even commit violent crimes against others.  Majority of school shootings were the result of a depressed teenager who just snapped one day and committed these horrific crimes. 

 

The signs and symptoms of Depression:

-          Feelings of Helplessness and hopelessness-  They no longer care anymore about anything, and feel as if their life is a lost cause that has no point.

-          Loss of interest in daily activities-  They don’t bother with daily activities anymore because they do not find a point for them.

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