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About two weeks ago, a young woman I met in a 12-step meeting asked me to sponsor her.  She hesitated in doing so because she was well aware of my busy schedule. She said, "I promise I won't be high maintenance. I realize you have a young son, work a full time job and sponsor a lot of girls.  I just need someone like you to take me through the twelve steps.  I want to stay sober and only have 20 days."

Internally, without her knowing, I checked in with the God of my understanding. Okay, God. I've said no to other women who have asked me to be their sponsors before she asked me, I am sponsoring three other women and I am still working on the website and my book when I am not working my full time job. It doesnt seem like I have time to work with her and I am  also well aware of how my ego likes to feel important by taking on new sponsees.  So, please, let me know what I should do here.

I waited a few moments and said, "I cannot commit to sponsoring you but I am willing to support you the next couple of days, get to know one another a bit more and see what happens.  If I can't sponsor you, I will help you find someone who can and you can use me as part of your support group."

Her willingness to follow directions was apparent from the start. I asked her to do specific things and she did them. She read from the Big Book, attended daily meetings and journaled. When she experienced overwhelming emotions, she reached out to me for help. Day by day, I was getting the message I should continue to help her.

A week later, the woman called me to tell me her alcoholic father was diagnosed with throat cancer.  It was becoming clear why the two of us were brought together. She was entering a tornado with only 25 days sober and, she needed a strong sober support. 

She communicated with me daily to let me know what was going on.  Sometimes, we communicated back and forth several times until her nerves were settled. Today, she said to me, "I am so sorry. I know I told you I was going to be low maintanance and I keep needing your help."

I responded, "Don't apologize.  I am a big girl and I am more than capable of saying no to someone without feeling bad.  I agreed to help you because I felt the urge from within. AA is a spiritual program. No matter what problem you face, the solution will always be spiritual. Increase I follow my gut and more is revealed. Everytime I surrender my will and open myself to be a Channel of Peace in somoene else's life, I experience more Peace in my own life and stay sober another day. We keep what we have by giving God's Love away. It is my duty and pleasure to help you. Just remember, pay it forward when you have the chance."



P.S. Why don't you give it away by writing your own blog and sharing your experience, strength and hope with someone else?


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Cate Stevens. Founder of, has over fifteen years of recovery from food, drug, alcohol, cigarette and unhealthy relationship addiction. Cate’s approach to recovery is based on the 12 steps, as well the practice of spiritual principles, exercise, good nutrition, and meditation. Cate’s personal, ongoing recovery process has benefited tremendously from the free sponsorship of other women.

Cate has successfully coached hundreds of women to develop specific, daily action plans to support their personal and professional goals. Cate majored in journalism and communications and is the author of "Addictionland: Key Lessons from My Rollercoaster Ride to Freedom from Food, Drug, Alcohol, Cigarette and Unhealthy Relationship Addiction", a series of powerful vignettes.

As a motivational speaker, educator and coach, Cate is highly effective and inspirational. Cate leverages her experience from premier sales, management and leadership training programs to teach her clients how to be sober, productive and fulfilled.

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