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In early recovery, it was suggested "don't drink/use, stay out of relationships, go to meetings, change people, places and things and get a sponsor."  While the suggestion to abstain from alcohol and drugs was the most important suggestion, the suggestion to get a sponsor was second in importance.  Without a person to guide me through the steps or demonstrate sobriety to me, I would be lost.

At first, I picked a sponsor who was as well as me (which means not well at all!!)  It took a while until I realized it wasn't okay to smoke pot "once in a while" with twelve years of so-called sobriety.  Next, a professional, Jewish woman like myself approached me to offer me guidance after announcing I was sponsorless.

I went through the steps with her and slowly pushed her away when a sexier sponsor caught my eye.  He (yes, I did say he!) was Italian, suave, brilliant and emotionally unavailable.  He was exactly what I needed because I had no self worth and chasing him gave me a sense of purpose!

Thankfully, the wisdom he emparted was solid and chasing him from meeting to meeting enabled me to get quite an education on recovery.  He went to 4-5 meetings a day and so did I!  Eventually, he broke up with me and I had to find a power I could rely on.  I found a woman with 25 years to take me through the steps again and she taught me how to use the steps to strengthen my connection with my higher self, which I call G-d.

When she picked up a pill after her husband died, I couldn't believe it.  This was the one human being in the world who demonstrated the principles of recovery to me in a consistent manner.  If she could pick up, no one was safe!  I looked for another woman to replace her and couldnt find someone with her type of sobriety.

Thankfully, the lessons she taught me never left me and instead of finding one person to guide me, I found many.  I have a spiritual guide in recovery, a life coach for my business, a financial advisor for my finances, etc.  I also wrote my life story (memoir) which was the equivalent of another fourth step in depth.  When I asked my G-d to bring me a 12 step guide, I was given that assignment.

So, in the end, G-d is my Employer.  As the literature instructs, I check my thinking in with other spiritually minded people and I remember to pray before I make any decision.  I invite G-d in to all of my affairs and trust that the right person, place and situation will come when the student (me) is ready!

Best,

Increase

P.S. Let me know if you have a question about sponsorship or the steps.

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Cate Stevens. Founder of Addictionland.com, has over fifteen years of recovery from food, drug, alcohol, cigarette and unhealthy relationship addiction. Cate’s approach to recovery is based on the 12 steps, as well the practice of spiritual principles, exercise, good nutrition, and meditation. Cate’s personal, ongoing recovery process has benefited tremendously from the free sponsorship of other women.

Cate has successfully coached hundreds of women to develop specific, daily action plans to support their personal and professional goals. Cate majored in journalism and communications and is the author of "Addictionland: Key Lessons from My Rollercoaster Ride to Freedom from Food, Drug, Alcohol, Cigarette and Unhealthy Relationship Addiction", a series of powerful vignettes.

As a motivational speaker, educator and coach, Cate is highly effective and inspirational. Cate leverages her experience from premier sales, management and leadership training programs to teach her clients how to be sober, productive and fulfilled.


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