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On my run this morning, I was thinking about the "waves" of life and how to stay afloat when the going gets rough.  Perfectly calm water can only exist in a vacuum.  Because other elements exist, like earth, air and fire, the water is affected and waves arise.  On a perfect day, when I have practiced many of my spiritual disciplines such as acceptance, exercise, breathing, service to others or meditation, my inner self is calm and I have a better chance of responding to life.  On other days, when I rush out my front door to work without reading a positive passage or taking time to get centered, I am more easily disturbed by the blowing of the wind, shifting of the earth and heat of the fire.

I am extremely grateful for my recovery lifestyle which shifted me away from constantly being a victim into a life of empowerment.  I face many circumstances today which have the potential to completely paralyze me with fear or pain and, instead, I CHOOSE recovery.  I am able to choose it because I am not on drugs.  When I use drugs/alcohol or any mind/mood altering substance, I lose my choice.  I work a program one day at a time, year after year, for close to 17 years now, because the risidual effect of doing so is what helps me face and flow with life's waves.

Today, I expect waves.  Today, I do my best to not close my eyes and turn my back on the waves.  Today, I believe I can turn into the wave and ride it in the direction intended for me and end of up exactly where I am meant to be for the moment.  Circumstances, like my mom's terminal illness, certainly weigh on my heart and mind greatly.  I choose to be there for her.  I choose to feel my feelings, share with my loved ones, cry my eyes out and then get up and go see my mom as often as I can.  Changes at work impact me.  My territory had two representatives working it for eight years.  Now, it's just me.  I could tell myself I can't do the work and complain or I can sit with my manager and strategize how to best spend my attention/effort and take responsibility for my efforts.  Recovery teaches me to give every outcome to my higher power.  I am only in charge of my attitude and my effort.

People misbehave all the time.  I believe hurting people hurt people.  I believe people show you who they are and their behaviors are about their wounds, not anyone elses.  What the world needs now is a whole hell of lot more love, compassion and tolerance.  Anger and resentment don't take effort.   Rising above the wave does.  For me, that begins with self-care.  By attending to my mind, body and spirit each day, I calm the waters and can be of use to others instead of a hardship

All my best,
Cate Stevens





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Cate Stevens. Founder of, has over fifteen years of recovery from food, drug, alcohol, cigarette and unhealthy relationship addiction. Cate’s approach to recovery is based on the 12 steps, as well the practice of spiritual principles, exercise, good nutrition, and meditation. Cate’s personal, ongoing recovery process has benefited tremendously from the free sponsorship of other women.

Cate has successfully coached hundreds of women to develop specific, daily action plans to support their personal and professional goals. Cate majored in journalism and communications and is the author of "Addictionland: Key Lessons from My Rollercoaster Ride to Freedom from Food, Drug, Alcohol, Cigarette and Unhealthy Relationship Addiction", a series of powerful vignettes.

As a motivational speaker, educator and coach, Cate is highly effective and inspirational. Cate leverages her experience from premier sales, management and leadership training programs to teach her clients how to be sober, productive and fulfilled.

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