Sherry Gaba, LCSW and author of "The Law of Sobriety" has over thirteen years of experience as a clinician, and is a graduate of USC specializing in addictions, eating disorders, parenting, single parenting, divorce, and life coaching. She is currently serving as a private practitioner in California working with a broad spectrum of clients.
The first step, finding your purpose with intention, is about putting your passions into practice. Whatever gifts you were given is to be shared with others. If you are meant to be a writer, go write. If you are meant to be a chef, go cook. It is all about your compelling reason for existing. Without purpose, staying sober without being “dry” will be next to impossible. Relapse is almost inevitable when you are not living a life that resonates with who you are. The intention part of this step is once you know what you desire; it is all about going after it with all the energy you can muster. For example, I remember watching Celebrity Rehab 1 several years ago and I told myself I would be on that reality television show no matter what. Through a series of events, I landed a spot on Celebrity Rehab 2, 3, and presently I am working on Celebrity Rehab 4. I knew I had gifts to offer the clients of that program from my work at some of the Malibu rehabs and with high profile clients. My persistence was uncanny and I made it happen.
Living a life that is true to your values is identifying what you stand for and are willing to defend. These values are what guide you toward action. It is about releasing the negative belief systems that you might of learned in your family of origin, but creating values that resonate with who you are now. Your personal values allow you to stay grounded. If you are in a bad relationship that could possibly cause you to relapse, then if sobriety is your value, you must step away from that toxic situation.
Living a life of authenticity is allowing your true self to emerge. So often celebrities have this false persona that they portray to the media and their fans, but on the inside they are like scared little children. Authenticity is all about healing that frightened part of you by being really honest with who you are. Often our true self emerges in the midst of crises. If you are contemplating getting sober because you have lost everything, now is the time to do it and to embrace the true essence of who you were always meant to be.