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The holidays are difficult for many people. Usually, people spend the holidays reflecting on the people they love or reflecting on the people they have lost.  Since addicts have a very difficult time with personal relationships, holiday get togethers bring added stress and anxiety.

When I first quit drinking, I worried how I would get through a work or family gathering without a liquid lubricant.  Feeling guilty, ashamed and uncomfortable from many choices I made prior, being around co-workers and family brought up all many latent, negative emotions.

Oldtimers in the program made suggestions to me which I follow to this day.  The only one I know I have to follow perfectly is "Don't drink or use drugs, no matter what." IncreaseOther suggestions which help a great deal include:

1) When going to someone else's house to celebrate, bring a sober companion and/or drive your own car.  When the going gets tough, you can always exit.

2) Have your cell phone handy.  You can always duck out of a room and make a call from the bathroom.  Sober friends are but a few digits away.

3) Get to a meeting before or after the get together. You will connect with a Power greater than yourself via sober supports.

4) Focus on what you can bring to an occasion instead of how you feel.  If you are with family or friends you haven't seen in a while, ask them a bunch of questions.  Take the focus off of yourself.  You will be amazed how much other people like to talk about themselves and how quickly the time will pass.

5) If pressed by someone to drink, have an excuse ready to go.  You can simply say "No, thank you" (which for me, at the beginning of recovery, was impossible!) or you can say "I am allergic", "I don't like the way I feel when I drink" or simply, "I don't drink. It doesn't agree with me."

And, lastly, count your blessings.  Gratitude never fails to put distance between me and my destructive behaviors.

Happy Holidays!


P.S. And remember, you never have to be alone again.  Addictionland is here to support you.

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Cate Stevens. Founder of, has over fifteen years of recovery from food, drug, alcohol, cigarette and unhealthy relationship addiction. Cate’s approach to recovery is based on the 12 steps, as well the practice of spiritual principles, exercise, good nutrition, and meditation. Cate’s personal, ongoing recovery process has benefited tremendously from the free sponsorship of other women.

Cate has successfully coached hundreds of women to develop specific, daily action plans to support their personal and professional goals. Cate majored in journalism and communications and is the author of "Addictionland: Key Lessons from My Rollercoaster Ride to Freedom from Food, Drug, Alcohol, Cigarette and Unhealthy Relationship Addiction", a series of powerful vignettes.

As a motivational speaker, educator and coach, Cate is highly effective and inspirational. Cate leverages her experience from premier sales, management and leadership training programs to teach her clients how to be sober, productive and fulfilled.

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