Life is different after #addiction in so many ways. The line between those who drink and get high and those who don’t can appear like a dividing wall in some situations. Here are just a few things that only sober people can understand – and " #Norms" never will.
1. People often act like it’s a shocking thing that you don’t drink. Pretty frequently, maybe half the time, people respond to your assertion that you don’t drink with genuine #shock and awe. Maybe they really mean that they couldn’t possibly do it or maybe they can’t understand why anyone would want to. Either way, it happens.
2. People tend to spend a lot more money on drinks than they realize. Alcohol costs money, and under the influence people tend to spend more than they would otherwise on other things as well. Sober people can sit back and watch the bill pile up and quickly.
3. #Dating is that much harder when your date drinks heavily. As if getting to know someone or going on a blind date weren’t hard enough – when that person wants to get a beer before dinner or chugs through half a bottle of wine over appetizers, it can be disconcerting. On the other hand, it’s never been easier to immediately identify an incompatible match when this happens.
4. People just assume you’ll be the #designated driver. Just because you don’t plan on drinking, it doesn’t mean that you want to chauffeur a bunch of drunk people around town – but most of the time, that’s the assumption.
5. There are no non-alcoholic alternatives at toasts. It may seem like a small thing, but it can make you feel awkward when everyone else lifts a glass of champagne at the wedding and you have to either lift a glass of water, only pretend to take a drink after, or lift nothing at all.
6. Sometimes it’s easier to lie. Rather than deal with questions or awkwardness, sometimes it’s just easier to say that you don’t feel like drinking than it is to explain that you’re sober.
7. People will push alcohol on you. Your choice not to drink is one that you have to make every day and is sometimes harder than others. It’s not helpful or funny or cute when people attempt to coerce you into having “just one.”
8. Sometimes you lose friends because you’re sober and it's tough. Some people don’t want to be around someone who doesn’t drink or get high even if that person has been a longtime friend and is making a far larger concession to continue hanging out with them. It can hurt, and that kind of rejection can make you stronger, or it can tear down your ability to stay #sober Either way, it’s no small thing.
What are some things that you now understand in #sobriety that you might not have when you were drinking or using drugs? Leave a comment below.
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