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Dealing With Boredom in Recovery

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on Monday, 18 February 2013
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Overheard at meetings and treatment rooms are stories of how clients report that there's nothing to do now that they're sober or how they feel like they won't have any friends once they get sober. While I can certainly understand the concern, there are a lot of people engaged in a full life who are either sober or who don't drink but have a life committed to health. It makes a lot of sense to me that finding something to do would be difficult as the focus of the using person has been primarily on using chemicals to affect their reality and change the way they feel.

More than filling time with "things to do" perhaps it's likely that other issues can manifest as boredom and that 'boredom' is used as the newly sober person is unfamiliar with the dearth of emotions they're experiencing?

Perhaps you're not feeling bored, but you're feeling stuck? I know many people who like to write and often they'll discuss writer's block. There are many ways to address writer's block but it has been my experience that the person experiencing the 'block' isn't feeling inspired. While it's a novel idea to suggest that you need to write when you're not feeling inspired, it takes a lot of effort, especially if you have nothing to say. Look online and you'll see a wealth of resources for writers that speak to writing prompts or story ideas. These are in place because people know that sometimes folks feel empty.

Remember, if you are bored on a constant basis it is likely that you are boring to other people. What do you think of that?

I will give you a few suggestions and then list ideas for things to try:

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Skilled Sobriety

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on Friday, 06 April 2012
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Long-term sobriety requires personal engagement in your recovery.  Real engagement goes beyond just attending meetings or calling your sponsor.  Engaged recovery requires that you constantly learn new, concrete skills which support long-term sobriety. When I think of concrete skills that support recovery, several things come to mind:

Resilience - This generally refers to a person’s ability to cope with adversity, or the ability to bounce back from problems and setbacks. Research has shown resiliency to be a dynamic process.  Resilient individuals adapt to changing and unexpected events even under the duress of adversity. You can develop your own resilience by establishing good problem-solving skills, or by seeking help and building social support.  Fostering a belief that there are things you can do to manage your feelings and cope, and finding positive meaning in trauma, are other strategies for building your resilience.

Delayed gratification – Usually, people who can abstain from alcohol or drugs, or people who have managed to stay out of prison, have found ways to delay their gratification. People use chemicals to change the way they feel, so if you learn skills to act on your emotions in healthy ways, including offseting a need for immediate gratification, you can manage to fulfill your needs through avenues other than chemical use.

Volunteer work - My experience has shown me that volunteer work is a great way to feel better about yourself, develop a community of peers who share similar interests, and be of service to others.  If you want to raise your self-esteem, do things you’d be proud to tell other people.

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