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Staying sober requires that we develop skills that further long-term abstinence. While there are many ways to achieve recovery, I would like to discuss Mindfulness as a tool that has been valuable to me and a host of clients I’ve worked with over the last 28 years.

Mindfulness is a concept that talks about the practice of focusing your attention and awareness based on the concept of mindfulness in Buddhist meditation. It has been popularized by Jon Kabat-Zinn. Mindfulness continues to be taught independently of religion.

My sense is that while Mindfulness is a relatively new approach to addiction recovery I have found this concept to have merit. It’s very likely that you’ll find this approach does not conflict with your current program of recovery. I quit using alcohol and drugs over 33 years ago and feel like incorporating the practice of Mindfulness has been very helpful in various parts of my sobriety…..and my life.

While I am certainly not an expert I would like to give you one way to practice mindfulness.

Perhaps you’re at a stage in your recovery where urges, cravings and addictive impulses overwhelm you. Perhaps you feel anxious more than you’d like, or perhaps you’d simply like to add another tool to your toolbox. I sense this method might be helpful to you. I like to explain Mindfulness by way of the acronym S.O.B.E.R:

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Meet My Friend Les Bernal and "Stopping Predatory Gambling" Foundation

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Hello Recovery Friends, Readers, & New Visitor’s,

I happened to get a Very Important Email today from my “PAL Les Bernal” and felt I needed to *SHARE* it in the *SPIRIT* of Educating the public about MY addiction I’m recovering from for almost 7 years now. Compulsive Addicted Gambling Addiction is a
REAL Addiction & Disease….

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Using Guilt on the Path

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Chris Lemig Author The Narrow Way"Using Guilt on the Path" is a guest post from the amazing Chris Lemig, author of The Narrow Way: A Memoir of Coming Out, Getting Clean, and Finding Buddha. We just started reading his book recently here (and we are loving it!), and are absolutely thrilled to have a piece from Chris here. Read the post, and check out the info at the bottom to find out more about Chris and where you can find him!

I was having lunch with a friend the other day. We were reminiscing about the drug days. We're both in recovery, have been for years, and for both of us the Dharma has played a big part in that path's success.

But however different our lives are today, the memories of our past mistakes still occasionally return unbidden to haunt us and sometimes keep us peeking over the blankets in the dark, late at night.

"Was that really me?" we ask ourselves and whisper, "Could I become that person again?"

Then the images of all the people we've hurt, lied to, threatened and stolen from rise up in our minds like ghosts and banshees.

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A Bottom in Recovery

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A Bottom in Recovery

This is a wonderful anonymous guest post on hitting a Bottom while sober. A honest, raw piece, we are very grateful for this insightful submission!

Being sober is the most wonderful gift I’ve ever received.  And for the first five years of my sobriety, I lived in a world of perpetual perkiness.  I even walked through a marriage and divorce with what dignity and grace.  And then that special someone walked into my life.  And I was completely smitten!  People commented on a regular basis about how good we were together….and we were.  Or so I thought.  What I realized was that I had entered my first relationship in recovery and was truly in love for the first time.  But I was alone in that and the relationship ended abruptly and very unexpectedly.  This was an emotional bottom, for me, of great magnitude.

I never hit a bottom like this as a still suffering alcoholic.  And it was huge.  The stages of grief were almost more than I could handle.  I was desperate to turn off the emotions.  I was desperate to not feel at all.  And I wanted to drink!

My heart physically hurt and the pain was nearly unbearable.  The question that may come to mind for some people reading this is, “How could a person cause this much pain to someone with five years of sobriety?”  The answer to that question is: I still had a lot of work to do on me and God waited until I was able to handle it to do the work.

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what make these prom dresses sophisticated and stunning.

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As a general rule, evening dresses are a type of formal dress designed to be worn for night time events such as the opera, formal dinners, cocktail parties, and wedding receptions. There are many types of evening dresses so that women can always be well dressed, ranging from cocktail dresses to full ball gowns, which are to be worn at white tie events.

A woman should always own a version of the classic little black sequined cocktail dresses. A simple little black dress can easily be worn to a casual event. The addition of jewelry, a shawl, gloves, a clutch, hair accessories, and heels can dress up a little black dress to suit a more formal affair. This flexible dress is absolutely fundamental.

Casual evening dresses often have fun patterns and a relaxed look. These dresses are made from comfortable fabrics like cotton or polyester and can either have simple or extravagant details. From shirred  to long, belted maxi prom dresses uk, casual evening wear comes in a large variety and caters to many different tastes.

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Formal dresses are worn to the most extravagant events a woman will attend. Such occasions include galas, banquets, formal weddings, operas, and concerts. While long evening gowns and ball gowns are common for such events, any garment with an elegant look will do. These dresses can be made out of velvet, silk, or chiffon, and are generally not overwhelmed by excessive embellishments. Simple details, like seed beads or a plunging neckline, are what make these dresses sophisticated and stunning.

A dress can be any color or pattern you can imagine. However, there are colors to help more than others and which may be varied depending on the occasion of the celebration.

Strapless dresses in some detail as in this case and dresses with single straps are ideal for women with broad shoulders and that “cut” and reduce the amount of skin that is visible.

I hope these tips will be useful for you when searching for evening dresses. The smart evening dresses for that date you have been waiting for is very essential. Don't let your budget limit you in your choices, if you come to Didobridal to have a look, you will find fabulous evening dresses at a reasonable price.

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My Gambling Addiction ~ Part 3 & 4 Of an Interview by MyAddiction.com

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Hello Addictionland friends & new Visitor's,

I have shared parts 1 & 2 of "My Gambling Addiction" story done by MyAddiction.com Here now is parts 3 & 4 of my story.....

My Gambling Addiction: Lessons Learned (Part 3 of 4),

By Leanne Hall, Fri, September 27, 2013

In this exclusive interview with MyAddiction.com, Cathy Lyon shares her experiences with gambling addiction and recovery.

*What was your lowest point?*
After both stays in the recovery crisis center in November of 2002 and April of 2006, some of what I had NOT learned was how to actually "break down" the "cycle" of compulsive gambling, piece by piece, and understand – and how to use all of the recovery tools and skills to do that.
At the same time, after my release in 2006, the GA group I was attending was having some trouble within our group. People would gossip about others. We also didn't have many members who had good, solid or long "clean" time. Trusted servants were not "utilizing" all of the by-laws and guidelines from GA. There was no one willing to give up themselves to become sponsors to new members, and no Financial Pressure Relief group meetings were being held. I offered many times to help, and I did, but I couldn't do it all on my own! The reason it's so important, especially for new members, is that we come to GA so in debt and financially broken that we have NO idea where to start on taking our financial inventory.
I had always felt I never really got any financial relief most of my recovery, or trying in vain to stay in recovery, so much so that it lead to my third major event – and lowest point in my life! From April to the beginning of August in 2006, I'd really gotten a good foothold on a clean recovery, but life challenges and financial events turned all of that into a tailspin! Long story short, I had been cleaning homes to make a little money. I was cleaning a friend's home while she was on vacation, and I'd gone home one day for lunch, and my power was turned off! I checked the mail and had a shut-off notice from my gas and phone companies as well. That just put me in panic mode. Instead of working things out with my husband and figuring something out, my old habits and behaviors of my addiction took over. I got into that "have to fix this quick" mindset.

That's why, when you're in recovery, you also need to work on your old way of thinking and learn to solve life's challenges in a healthy way. I hadn't gotten that far in my new recovery. Even though I was not "in gambling action," I'd still used the old habits to try to deal with this financial crisis. I never had that "financial relief" like the GA combo-book had said we would when we stopped gambling. So I did the unthinkable and stole from my friend! When she got back, I could have told her, but I could not bring myself to do it. Just when I got my nerve up to do it, it was too late; she had already called the police. They showed up at my home, asked me about what had happened, arrested me, and off to jail I went. She wanted to press charges against me to learn a lesson.

Needless to say, I did – the hard way. I had a few court dates to go to with a public defender. I was just going to plead guilty; I had to be accountable for the poor choices I had made. This was not only the lowest point in my life, I was so humiliated; people seeing me handcuffed and put into a police car. And if that was not enough, I live in a small town, so of course there was my name in the local newspaper with what I'd done! There went my reputation. All NOT because I was gambling, but worse (and dumb) because I stole from somebody to try to solve my financial problems.
So please learn from me: Make sure you work on all areas of your recovery! I had to learn the hard way. I will say this: Even though I'd not gambled when all of this happened, I still consider the last day that I gambled as Jan. 29, 2007 – my last/sentencing court date. It is my constant reminder of the lowest point in my life....

My Gambling Addiction: Recovery and Life After Gambling (Part 4 of 4)

By Leanne Hall, Mon, September 30, 2013

In this exclusive interview with MyAddiction.com, Cathy Lyon shares her experiences with gambling addiction and recovery.

*Who helped you the most in your recovery?*

An "angel" came to my rescue when I was going through the legal process of my theft conviction. His name is Boyd Sherbourne, PsyD. At the time, he was an Addictions PsyD from the crisis center I was admitted to. Since the friend I'd stole from was also in my treatment program, they were going to kick me out of the program. I'd never met Boyd, but a little problem came up with my husband and my treatment councilor, and Boyd overheard them heatedly talking and asked my husband if he could talk with him in his office. He helped and talked with my husband for a while (while I was still in jail waiting to be processed and released). Boyd told him what had happened and also explained to my husband most likely why I did what I'd done due to financial stress, even though I was not gambling.

Then a few days went by, and Boyd called me on his own even though he didn't know me. It was a God intervention moment. He asked if I was willing to meet with him, so I did. He wanted to help me with support and teach me how to not only breakdown the "cycle" but also learn better ways of handling life challenges in recovery. He taught me how to change the unhealthy, lingering habits and behaviors of addiction. I thank God every day for Boyd taking me on, and he did it a whole year! I can never repay him for helping me get my life back and save my marriage. He helped me stay on a healthy, clean, balanced recovery.

*What advice do you have for other compulsive gamblers?*

We are truly blessed that we live in a world with wonderful technology, and it has turned the recovery process around! For those of you who gamble but are not sure whether you have a problem, you can take the "20 Questions" quiz on the Gamblers Anonymous website. If you answer those questions honestly, you'll know if you're a problem gambler. The Internet has provided "safe and secure" websites for recovery help. There are places with live chat rooms 24 hours a day, on-line meetings, free treatment and therapy. A support group is vitial to a balanced recovery plan. I attend Gamblers Anonymous meetings, of course, but Safe Harbor compulsive gambling hub is another great support community! They offer online meetings, 24/7 live chat rooms and a fantastic "Resource Recovery Room," which includes the "top compulsive gambling recovery sites."

There you will find the top 100 recovery sites on the web, which is how I found this great site, MyAddiction.com. I believe that in order to have a well-balanced recovery, you also need to have a "spiritual" well-being. We reach out for help with such broken spirits, souls and hearts. Not everyone has faith per say. But I do believe in a power greater than myself has helped me return to sanity from the insane, cunning addiction of compulsive gambling. My own quote, which I say all the time, is, "Addiction and recovery have only one thing in common: They are both selfish!" We are very selfish when we are in the depths of our gambling addiction. And you have to be selfish and put yourself first in your recovery in order to be successful! Just remember: No one person on this Earth is perfect. We are all a wrok in progress.

*What are your favorite activities now that you don't gamble?*

I enjoy so many things now that I have not placed a bet in six years. It's like I shared before, having a well-balanced recovery is important. There are activities that I feel are vital to my recovery which keep me from getting too complacent. I enjoy writing, and I love to read all kinds of books. Now that I'm a published author, I have met so many great writers and authors (even a few famous ones!) who have really helped me develop as a writer – along with some good book clubs. I love to cook, and I love gardening (growing flowers mostly). I also enjoy volunteer work; it really helped me fill a lot of the free time I had.

I've been unable to work outside the home for the past few years due to some health issues and the medications I take for my bipolar II, panic and agoraphobia disorders. My husband and I enjoy the first Friday art walk each month in our community, which helps me to get out. In the Summer, we like to river raft and hike on my good days.I have my blog in which I'm able to "visit" with new friends I've made in recovery. I use the Gamblers Anonymous blue and red books daily. I write in my journal daily. I attend online 12-step meetings. I read and post daily on Safe Harbor and still go to some GA meetings as well. I've also started writing my second & third books.

*My Mission today through my Book, and my New Recovery Blog: http://CatherineLyonaddictedtodimes.wordpress.com I invite anyone who may need Support and Recovery Resources from Compulsive Addicted Gambling. I continue my On-Line Journel of my story*......
**Thanks for taking time to read *My Story* and visiting me here on *Addictionland**

Warm Regards & Blessings,Author, Catherine Townsend-Lyon

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Spiritual River - Addiction Help and Alcoholism Treatment

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Spiritual River is a resource for addiction help and alcoholism treatment. Operated by former addict Patrick Meninga, Spiritual River has helped thousands recover from their addiction problem. Visit our website www.spiritualriver.com for more useful information, or call our 24/7 treatment helpline 888-724-3186. 100% confidential.

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Ten Thinking Errors

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thinking errorsDo You Make These Ten Widespread Thinking Errors?

There are particular mindsets or points of view that can be counter-productive. These errors in thinking, especially if taken to the extreme, can inhibit the personal growth and development in relationships.

1. All or absolutely nothing pondering: You see items in extremes, everything is black or white. This can be evident or subtle, for instance saying 'He is always late, but I never get angry about it'. This mindset can be that of the perfectionist also. This thinking error is common amongst addicts.

2. Minimizing or catastrophizing: You exaggerate the relevance of modest issues. 'The whole meal was ruined since the desert was not served promptly.' Is this a catastrophe? An illustration of minimizing is taking a substantial problem or occasion and minimizing its value so it seems inconsequential. People often do this so as not to have to deal with uncomfortable feelings or consequences. It is a form of averting from discomfort and confrontation.

3. Overgeneralization: You get a single event and draw basic conclusions that it is universally true. If your date is late you say 'No guys/girls are ever on time'.

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"Tips on a Successful & Balanced Recovery from Addiction"

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Hello Friends and New Visitors,
Having a Balanced and Healthy recovery contributes to a Successful recovery. It is how I've been able to string along almost 7 years now in my own recovery. One of my "FAV" support & informational website I visit for reading articles, learn and be educated on all type of addictions is on http://www.MyAddiction.com.

Back in January they did an interview & 4 part Article under their *Gambling Addiction* section on me, and I was very Humbled they had asked ME! I happen to visit the site today and came across a great article about JUST THAT......So I thought
With their permission, I thought I would share it with all of you. It really is a GOOD article to aide in your OWN Recovery! I hope you can learn a something NEW to use in your recovery.....*Author, Catherine Townsend-Lyon*

By Courtney Nunes, October 01, 2013

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When it comes to addiction recovery, everyone’s needs are different.
For many people struggling with addiction, deciding to make a change is the hardest step.
Here are a few helpful tips to keep in mind on the road to recovery.

Recovery comes first.
Make yourself the priority. Stay in touch with professionals you know who can give you advice and provide you with treatment options.

Change your environment.
Remove reminders of addiction from your home and workplace. Surround yourself with positive people, and replace your old habits with healthy new ones.

Communicate.
Addiction can be very isolating, so it is important to openly communicate with friends and family about your recovery. Though this may be difficult, their support system will help you stay motivated and focused.

Exercise and eat well.
Getting out for 30 to 60 minutes each day will do wonders for your physical and mental health. Maintaining a healthy diet is another important aspect of a successful recovery.

Join a support group!
Spending time with people in similar situations can be very therapeutic. Whether you join a church group or recovery network, make attending meetings a priority.
Build a sober social network. If your previous friendship circle revolved around drugs or alcohol, consider making new connections. Surround yourself with sober friends who will support your recovery.

Don’t give up.
Even if you’ve tried and failed before, do not give up or give in to the disease. Continually remind yourself that change is possible with the right treatment and support.

Sources: National Geographic and HelpGuide.org
**These are very HELPFUL TIPS**
**God Bless My Friends**





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