Before entering 12 step recovery, I never heard of primary purpose and had no clue what it should be. My sponsor informed me, "You don't need to guess anymore. Your purpose each day, from here on out, is to stay sober and to help other alcoholics achieve sobriety."
"Is that it? I wondered. What about my dreams to be an nationally recognized author and guest on Oprah? Seems a bit boring for a purpose.
I didn't grasp what she was saying but I followed her direction regardless and, in time, I began to realize the significance of my purpose. In good times and in bad, my primary purpose gave me something good to focus on rather than focusing on negativity or my self.
"Stay on the beam," my sponsor would add. "Stick to the basics and you will never have to go back to the basics. Basics are sponsorship, meetings, self-review, prayer, meditation, exercise, rest and helping others."...